Apology to the Members of FanIQ

10/19/09

18	(Edited by SweetCleanJaybo) It takes a big person to apologize to the entire Q nation. I personally wasn't offended but I accept anyway.

10/19/09

Raven73

18	Debi... Thanks.

10/19/09

NMboyzfan

18	WOW...that took cajones.

10/19/09

huskerfan_ia

30

Thanks Debi, here, have a s'more

I know you're job can be very frustrating. I know I've been guilty of venting and saying inappropriate things before, take today for example...... never mind, you don't want to hear about that, point is I'm glad the person I was ranting about never heard it (it was a customer...).

Clearly your comment wasn't meant for public consumption. But it was a damaging one. Not only to Riley, but to everyone you just apologized to, and your fellow moderators. You made their job more difficult with your comments.

I think it's big of you to apologize, and I hope this will begin the healing of this incident, and we can all go back to having fun around here.

If anyone else wants a s'more, let me know, I have plenty.

10/19/09

Cali_Kat

15

10/19/09

janet011685

12

huskerfan_ia wrote:

Thanks Debi, here, have a s'more

I know you're job can be very frustrating. I know I've been guilty of venting and saying inappropriate things before, take today for example...... never mind, you don't want to hear about that, point is I'm glad the person I was ranting about never heard it (it was a customer...).

Clearly your comment wasn't meant for public consumption. But it was a damaging one. Not only to Riley, but to everyone you just apologized to, and your fellow moderators. You made their job more difficult with your comments.

I think it's big of you to apologize, and I hope this will begin the healing of this incident, and we can all go back to having fun around here.

If anyone else wants a s'more, let me know, I have plenty.

I'd like a S'more.

Oh yeah, and

for the apology.

10/19/09

huskerfan_ia

15	janet011685 wrote: I'd like a S'more. Oh yeah, and for the apology. Ok, but only one...... We don't want you getting all chubby again......

10/19/09

myrna_ventura

17	I'm so proud of you Debi for being humble and thanks.

10/19/09

janet011685

15	huskerfan_ia wrote: Ok, but only one...... We don't want you getting all chubby again...... As I clicked "post", I just KNEW you'd go there. Like you were always so skinny! Whatever!

10/19/09

Helen

22

Kudos to you Deb! We all rant, whether called for, or not. Everyone of us, mods and members alike have ranted over something either to ourselves, in a private place to others or upfront and in someones face. It's human nature. And, hopefully, we are all humans here. As the old quotation goes, "Let he that is without sin cast the first stone". I think we can all be forgiven for being human.

And I am on the S'mores bandwagon Scott....extra chocolate!

10/19/09

NorseHeathen

22

You have honoured yourself today Debi. You have demonstrated a level of character and integrity that too many in our society have abandoned. For what it's worth, you have both my admiration and respect for showing a great inner strength and intestinal fortitude.

I'm glad FanIQ denied your resignation. No one is perfect and I think I'm safe in saying that we all have made similar errors in judgment.

10/19/09

HouTxFan

14	Well said.

10/19/09

huskerfan_ia

11

Helen wrote:

Kudos to you Deb! We all rant, whether called for, or not. Everyone of us, mods and members alike have ranted over something either to ourselves, in a private place to others or upfront and in someones face. It's human nature. And, hopefully, we are all humans here. As the old quotation goes, "Let he that is without sin cast the first stone". I think we can all be forgiven for being human.

And I am on the S'mores bandwagon Scott....extra chocolate!

Here ya go Helen

and here's some extra chocolate...

Enjoy!

10/19/09

blondie45044

18	You are a special person for coming forward and offering this apology. Recently there have been a lot of people that have done what you did in private only they did it in other peoples polls reeking havoc. Maybe you doing this will make others follow suit. We are here to have fun, thanks for being you.

10/19/09

18packabs

24	You have been a Dear Friend of mine for quite sometime. WE all make mistakes, but admitting them and making amends makes you a bigger person than most. Now my Dear Friend, I Love You even More. You are the best and I hope whoever was involved can be just as big a person and accept your apology.

10/19/09

janet011685

9	huskerfan_ia wrote: Here ya go Helen and here's some extra chocolate... Enjoy! I didn't get extra chocolate. mumbles incoherently under her breath, looking at her shoes and kicking the dirt

10/19/09

SassyRed

14

I have to agree we all have times in our lives when we rant, or I prefer vent and sometimes we have to do that I am sorry it got out of hand I did not see it, BUT it takes some who is mature and has heart to step up and apologize in this type of format, so KUDOS to you.. There is a saying let sleeping dogs lie, well there is a reason for that, so with that said thank you for being a grown up girl.

10/19/09

woody050681

15	I accept.

10/19/09

spyder6665

11	i do not know what happen but i am sure your apology is accepted by all involved i hope it does not stop you from being you and that you will still be you on here

10/19/09

stevieb39la

14

Didn't see either post, so have no comment on the rants. That said, sometimes we need to speak our mind, to rant, about different things. Sometimes you need to offend some one to get your point across. But the rant should be equal to the perceived offense. Just saying. But when you feel the need to apologize, it takes a strong moral and mature person to do it with style and grace. And we have seen that here.

10/19/09

vindog

8	Apology accepted- it takes a brave person to admit fault, but one question for you: How could FanIQ refuse your resignation? After all, isn't being a Moderator a VOLUNTEER position- not a PAID position??? Not saying I want you to resign- just curious how a resignation could be REFUSED on a volunteer website?????

10/19/09

Scania78

9	well said Debi. You are doing a great job here and would miss you if wouldn't be here anymore. Who else would I ask for help. I always got information from you when I needed it, good and fast answers, keep it up.

10/19/09

JrCanuckFan

19

vindog wrote:

Apology accepted- it takes a brave person to admit fault, but one question for you: How could FanIQ refuse your resignation? After all, isn't being a Moderator a VOLUNTEER position- not a PAID position??? Not saying I want you to resign- just curious how a resignation could be REFUSED on a volunteer website?????

I offered to resign because of what happened. I didn't WANT to resign, I love being a moderator. The post becoming public was something that happend while I wasn't here, I was at work. The execs of FanIQ recognized that I had no intention of the rant ever becoming public and did not want to accept my resignation.
However, regardless of whether I intended it for private or public, I DID say it, and I owned up to that, and offered my resignation.

10/19/09

JRSFLAME88

8	woody050681 wrote: I accept. You are so crazy! lol

10/19/09

jhawker1957

14	Deb u r still one of the sweetest I have ever met and if u ranted it was probably well founded! I have no idea what was said but I do know that FanIQ is very lucky 2 have u and I am still as always proud 2 call u friend! Hugzzzz

10/19/09

JRSFLAME88

14	(Edited by JRSFLAME88) Debi, I myself was on a rant this weekend. I so understand where you are coming from. I'm glad you will still be a moderator! We've known each other a while and I've always known you to be a very fair, good person. Thanks for all your contributions (especially for the Nascar ones)!

10/19/09

Beaneaters

18	Hey Debi... fugetaboutit...

10/19/09

kteacher

18	I have always liked you Debi (how could I not...with you being such a huge hockey fan.lol). WE all make mistakes, but not all of us own up to them. ----YOU did which was awesome. Hopefully lessons can be learned by what happened.

10/20/09

mikeyintheoc

8	NMboyzfan wrote: WOW...that took cajones. and balls

10/20/09

marcus_nyce

14	You're a stand up Canuck. I like that. Good job.

10/20/09

seal_warrior1

17

Personally, I don't know many people who do NOT rant or vent and Thank God for that! If we didn't utilize that option available to us, most of us would be walking around with the tops of our heads popped off, or we would have all killed each other for speaking words we really didn't mean and would never be able to take back. Those times are never meant for public disclosure and I don't know anyone who would want them publically disclosed. Those times allow the sanity to return and us to speak what we truly mean to say in a way that allows us all to remain civil and friends.

Unfortunately, a hiccup in the technical aspects of computers and the web changed this process and hurt two people, Riley & Debi, neither of which deserved to have to deal with such an issue.

Debi, kudos to you for showing the integrity, honesty, and strength of character to apologize and own up to mistakes that were made due to no effort of your own. I'm glad your resignation was refused, you fulfill a needed and valuable place here on the Q as a Mod and a member.

Lastly and most definitely not leastly....

Riley, kudos to you for being able to accept this apology graciously and move forward. I know you too, have probably been in a position, especially with all the environmental work that you do, where you would have loved to say more than you did to many people and had to go somewhere to bleed off some of that emotion to enable you to remain effective in promoting your causes. I'm sure you wouldn't have wanted those on the 11 o'clock news either. It takes someone with strong strength of character to be able to go through an issue like this and graciously accept the apology offered.

Here's to more respect and consideration between us All on the Q! Riley and Debi, you have turned this into a situation where we have all been able to learn and grow. Thank you both for setting such valuable examples for us all. Wishing the best to you both!

Scotttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt...... I'm ready for my S'mores now! Seals love S'mores with lots of chocolate! (By the way, since you have a 5-star rating on S'more making... are you available for our upcoming Live MLB Tailgate party for the World Series? *giggle* )

10/20/09

raja_starkglass

4	(Edited by raja_starkglass) Mistakes we all do, to accept it, is the first step to learn not to make that sort of mistakes again.Apologizing for the mistake is the humility and grace of the person, which are qualities of good intellect.

10/20/09

huskerfan_ia

12	(Edited by huskerfan_ia) One for the fat man, as ordered: And one for the Seal Princess, with a little smile

10/20/09

seal_warrior1

9	huskerfan_ia wrote: One for the fat man, as ordered: And one for the Seal Princess, with a little smile TY TY TY !!!! I want all my S'mores for the Series to look like THAT pretty please Yummmmmmmmmmmmmm

10/20/09

Jays_Leafs_Ffan

3	It just shows you are human. I have not had the pleasure of pissing you off lol.Not that i would.Don't let others push your buttons. from your experience you can see what i mean. It makes you a better person having experienced it. Will it happen again ? Continue doing the fantastic job you have been doing.

10/20/09

noti4

6	I dont need apology,Debi, for me you are doing a very difficult job, mistakes o not, you are a M. and I respet you.- The Apology is for you think you have offended, is personal You dont need apology whith me.-

10/20/09

CRAZY_LADY

7	(Edited by CRAZY_LADY) you did nothing that all of us has done once or twice on here

10/21/09

cuddles127017

6

seal_warrior1 wrote:

Personally, I don't know many people who do NOT rant or vent and Thank God for that! If we didn't utilize that option available to us, most of us would be walking around with the tops of our heads popped off, or we would have all killed each other for speaking words we really didn't mean and would never be able to take back. Those times are never meant for public disclosure and I don't know anyone who would want them publically disclosed. Those times allow the sanity to return and us to speak what we truly mean to say in a way that allows us all to remain civil and friends.

Unfortunately, a hiccup in the technical aspects of computers and the web changed this process and hurt two people, Riley & Debi, neither of which deserved to have to deal with such an issue.

Debi, kudos to you for showing the integrity, honesty, and strength of character to apologize and own up to mistakes that were made due to no effort of your own. I'm glad your resignation was refused, you fulfill a needed and valuable place here on the Q as a Mod and a member.

Lastly and most definitely not leastly....

Riley, kudos to you for being able to accept this apology graciously and move forward. I know you too, have probably been in a position, especially with all the environmental work that you do, where you would have loved to say more than you did to many people and had to go somewhere to bleed off some of that emotion to enable you to remain effective in promoting your causes. I'm sure you wouldn't have wanted those on the 11 o'clock news either. It takes someone with strong strength of character to be able to go through an issue like this and graciously accept the apology offered.

Here's to more respect and consideration between us All on the Q! Riley and Debi, you have turned this into a situation where we have all been able to learn and grow. Thank you both for setting such valuable examples for us all. Wishing the best to you both!

Scotttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt...... I'm ready for my S'mores now! Seals love S'mores with lots of chocolate! (By the way, since you have a 5-star rating on S'more making... are you available for our upcoming Live MLB Tailgate party for the World Series? *giggle* )

Thanks Debi for the other side of the story. I agree with what Seal wrote.

s'mores please!!!

10/21/09

Toejam

8	no more apologies needed, your contributions to the site far out weigh a vent....time to turn the page and move on

10/21/09

Nads

4	Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.Its good to know u apologised. There's one sad truth in life I've found While journeying east and west - The only folks we really wound Are those we love the best. We flatter those we scarcely know, We please the fleeting guest, And deal full many a thoughtless blow To those who love us best. Good Work Debbi.

10/21/09

Nads

9	An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything. For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness

10/21/09

MIKELIN8

5	Good job, Debi.

10/22/09

isucubs

4

She is one of a handful of people i came to care about on here and made me want to come back after a long period of minimal contact on here to finish up some life stuff. She is a great person and it is the fact that 2 of the best people I know on this site are also mods (Jess and her) that makes me have hope that this site can stay a great place to go even as it explodes in size (I used to love the old smaller community feel a few years ago)

10/22/09

Mr_Rogers

3	Nads wrote: An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything. For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness I dont know about all that. An apology can make minor repairs, but if the offense is on a larger scale, i dont know that an apology can truely "fix" anything , because the damage is already done.

10/22/09

Nads

2

Mr_Rogers wrote:

I dont know about all that. An apology can make minor repairs, but if the offense is on a larger scale, i dont know that an apology can truely "fix" anything , because the damage is already done.

Atleast by apologising u would realise whatever u have done is wrong.Doesn matter if it fix or break things.Bigger mistakes would be killing,etc etc which doesn need an explanation rather needs punishment.And its upto individual how bigger heart He/She has.Mahatma Gandhiji Said " If your slapped on one side of the cheeks show them the other" Peace my fren is very imp.

10/22/09

Mr_Rogers

3

Nads wrote:

Atleast by apologising u would realise whatever u have done is wrong.Doesn matter if it fix or break things.Bigger mistakes would be killing,etc etc which doesn need an explanation rather needs punishment.And its upto individual how bigger heart He/She has.Mahatma Gandhiji Said " If your slapped on one side of the cheeks show them the other" Peace my fren is very imp.

You have obviously never been cheated on.

10/22/09

mrturk

5	More proof that we are human and even after a mistake we are still worth knowing.

10/22/09

Nads

4	Mr_Rogers wrote: You have obviously never been cheated on. Not cheated huh,I have been the victim of this several times and with time i have started accepting it.Well never expect others to be good to u even if have done the best to them!! "Life's not always fair. Sometimes you can get a splinter even sliding down a rainbow"

10/22/09

Nads

6	Mr_Rogers wrote: You have obviously never been cheated on. "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong"

10/22/09

customercare31

6	In Hindi there is a saying - Mafee mangnewale se mafee denewala bada hota hai! Translated it means - The forgiver is bigger than the one asking for forgiveness! After all, isn't the one who was hurt forgetting it to forgive!

10/22/09

carlalbert64

7	Glad you are staying on as a mod Debi -

10/22/09

AndiLee0388

7

(Edited by AndiLee0388)

Debi: No one on this planet can say they have not said things in the heat of the moment. I have even more respect for you(if possible) for being able to publicly apologize, and do it in an adult manner.
I am sure feelings were hurt, and I am not downplaying that, however, if this could have been handled privately when it occurred, we wouldn't be having this conversation.
I am extremely glad they didn't accept your resignation. It would be a serious literary loss here on the Q, as well as a great personal loss to me. I love you dearly, and cannot wait for February!

With all that said, I would like a S'more, although we ( some lady friends and myself), call a S'More Tony Stewart, Robby Gordon, and Junyah with some chocolate and marshmallows involved....

Can you help me out with that Scott?

10/22/09

oxbench

6	(Edited by oxbench) Guess we can all kiss and make up now...

10/22/09

huskerfan_ia

5

AndiLee0388 wrote:

Debi: No one on this planet can say they have not said things in the heat of the moment. I have even more respect for you(if possible) for being able to publicly apologize, and do it in an adult manner.
I am sure feelings were hurt, and I am not downplaying that, however, if this could have been handled privately when it occurred, we wouldn't be having this conversation.
I am extremely glad they didn't accept your resignation. It would be a serious literary loss here on the Q, as well as a great personal loss to me. I love you dearly, and cannot wait for February!

With all that said, I would like a S'more, although we ( some lady friends and myself), call a S'More Tony Stewart, Robby Gordon, and Junyah with some chocolate and marshmallows involved....

Can you help me out with that Scott?

Sorry Andi, can't help you with your Man S'more.