First I want to tell you that I am the Mother of 5 children who I raised as a single mom ~ I am also Grandma to 23 lovely character building  children, 6 of whom are teenagers. That doesn't qualify me for anything except insanity. I never had to deal with the Internet problems with my children. The oldest is 33 and the youngest is 25. I thank God for that everyday.

Second, your little sister needs boundaries. If you are the only one available to create and keep those, then play the hand you've been dealt. If you are as sensible in that area as you sound, I know you can do it as hard as it will be.

I'm thinking the confrontation put her on the defensive. Hollering and cussing at someone is a good indication that the conversation will NOT go your way. If you had not included the information that the police were called, I might have given you the benefit of the doubt. That is a bad sign that things spiraled out of control during those phone calls.

I agree with Helen that no 5th grader should accessing certain sites. If your little sister MUST be on a social network, there are some that cater to younger people. Another thing I have learned is I only can "control" me...everyone else is outside my jurisdiction. That said, you certainly can influence your little sister to make better choices. From my experience, as soon as a "parent" figure says no to a pre-teen, that sets the wheels of rebellion in motion guaranteeing they'll do exactly the opposite of what they're told.

It's called "phishing".  In other words, she at one time clicked a link somewhere through myspace and it brought her to a page that looked like she needed to sign back in.  When she did, the person got her email and her myspace password.  She probably didn't realize it, most people don't, especially if u don't look at ur profile page, which u don't have a reason to do unless u've changed it or whatever. 

I seriously doubt ur friend was aware of this.  And w/ how long this has been going on, how r u not aware of it? 

First of  all a fifth grader should not have a MySpace account.  Second, the parents should care what is posted there. Does this parent realize that schools look at these pages? Third, if Schuyler is telling the truth, then someone phished her account.

As for the phone call to the child, I would have gone straight to the parent first and if the parent acted the way they did, then you did everything you could have. Just keep your sister off MySpace until she is a little older.

If the police had any sense they'd have inquired a bit more about the situation, realized how mundane the situation was, and simply said:

"Sir, that [chick] has issues with parenting, and apparently with you ... I suggest you not call her in the future ... and in all honesty, if we're to be contacted about either of you, you should make sure it's you doing the calling, without contacting her, to avoid having your reputation tarnished ............. because you may be trying to do the right thing, but in this world ... being the way it is ... doing the right thing can still put you behind bars!  Have a good evening!"

I reckon that's why a bachelor's degree isn't required for the position ... in some cases neither is common sense.

MySpace comments and bulletins get hijacked all the time-- and not just young kids either-- "Spyware Writers" and newer virus writers have figured out ways to edit HTML commands to point to crazy things like spyware, porn sites, or even malicious viruses. 

This whole issue revolves around marketing gone bad IMO-- these "spyware writers" get paid for either the information they collect from your PC, or each time you visit a certain webpage. Of course virus writers go hand-in-hand with this crap too, and they all know the most popular single website is....  you guessed it, MySpace-- and this is probably what happened with those "porn links".

In example, a good friend of mine had a bulletin posted "I got hot and nasty with this girl last night at the party"

I had to show him from my view that this is exactly what it said (which I knew couldn't have possibly come from him, seeing as he was out of town with his wife, and he's not the partying type anyway.)-- and for grins, I clicked the link-- sure enough, it had a link to a porn site and started loading spyware on my machine immediately (and dropped 3 viruses in just a few seconds!!!!)    Being in the IT field, I knew exactly what to do when this started happening-- pull the network cable and kill the spyware-- BUT this is the point--

MySpace is one of the biggest sources of spyware/viruses, AND don't believe everything you read from MySpace, ESPECIALLY from the bulletin areas-- Just be more careful about this stuff, just my .02.

sounds like that girls mom is about as good as mom as Britney Spears...seriously how are you gonna let your 5th grade daughter to look at porn...she is just asking for her to be pregnant before she is in high school

well. they harped down.

*UPDATE*

Yesterday, Schuyler's mother went to prison for he!! knows why.

Also, Schuyler moved far away. I dont care where either. She just bursts my bubble soooo much.

Then.. my sister got the Q.

She said for her 12th birthday she could get it and Im like whatever.

She probably wont understand it anyway...

racerunner263 is her screen name.