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how long is too long
Last night at coffee ( we had a couple of new commers) one of the gals asked how long has people been married ,she just got a divorce after 5 years, one of the guys told her I had been married 40+ years ,she asked didnt I think I have missed out on seeing other women ,or was it boring being married that long, i looked at her and said when you find your true love you won't have to ask that question ,so fellow iquers do you think 40+ years of marriage is too long ,if you are married how long have you been bored(ha ha) if you been through a divorce how hard was that
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3%a. way too long
13%b. what is this marriage you talk about
6%c. i was married at the cubs game
0%d. i have been married longer than that
77%e. other

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#14 | 1429 days ago
18packabs (+)

(Edited by 18packabs)
40 years too long? What are you NUTS, you are my IDOL Man.

I would give almost anything to find that ONE...

Getting Divorced is like getting the worst ASS WHOOPING ever, then the person doing the BEATING stands over you, unzips their pants and pees all over you.
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#1 | 1429 days ago
cubsgirl2 (+)

 No i think thats what a marriage is supposed to be. Thats why if I ever do it again divorce will not be an option, which is why I will never do it again. 



and congrats to you two it is the hardest job in the world making one last. Kudos 
i was married at the cubs game  
#2 | 1429 days ago

 When/If I get married, it will be a one-time thing.  It takes me long enough to pick out shampoo, can you imagine me choosing a spouse?  
Hopefully it will be a lifetime thing, but if not, I'm not sure I would want to remarry.  
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#3 | 1429 days ago

marriage is overrated
#4 | 1429 days ago

janet011685 wrote:
 When/If I get married, it will be a one-time thing.  It takes me long enough to pick out shampoo, can you imagine me choosing a spouse?  
Hopefully it will be a lifetime thing, but if not, I'm not sure I would want to remarry.  
No
#5 | 1429 days ago

No...I don't think 40 years is too long. Whether it last that long depends on the couple. I dig seeing older couples still happy in love after so many years.
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#6 | 1429 days ago

I was married for 9 years.. 2 years longer than I should have been.... I don't plan on doing that again...
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#7 | 1429 days ago

Joe_L wrote:
No
I don't know what that's supposed to mean, but shutup.  
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#8 | 1429 days ago

Joe_L wrote:
marriage is overrated
 Exactly!!
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#9 | 1429 days ago

janet011685 wrote:
I don't know what that's supposed to mean, but shutup.  
-----> you imagine me choosing a spouse?
#10 | 1429 days ago
cubsgirl2 (+)

(Edited by cubsgirl2)
janet011685 wrote:
I don't know what that's supposed to mean, but shutup.  
 I dont either but im stealing the smiley. 
i was married at the cubs game  
#11 | 1429 days ago

 my older sister has been married for 40 years.  my parents were a week short of 54 years when my dad died. my grandparents were well over 60 years.  and in 6 weeks it will be 31 years since i got the best gift i've ever gotten. a wedding ring from my wife.  i'm always thankful that  i can keep adding to the years we've been together.  it's NEVER too long when you both feel that you  found THE ONE.
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#12 | 1429 days ago
cubsgirl2 (+)

Joe_L wrote:
-----> you imagine me choosing a spouse?
 Mail order bride from the Philippines.   




Yep that'll work for you. 
i was married at the cubs game  
#13 | 1429 days ago

Over 32 years.  Bets ranged from 6 months to 18 months.  Both of us are too stubborned to quit.  I've about decided she's gonna continue to put up with me. 
#14 | 1429 days ago
18packabs (+)

(Edited by 18packabs)
40 years too long? What are you NUTS, you are my IDOL Man.

I would give almost anything to find that ONE...

Getting Divorced is like getting the worst ASS WHOOPING ever, then the person doing the BEATING stands over you, unzips their pants and pees all over you.
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#15 | 1429 days ago

(Edited by Cali_Kat)
I should elaborate. I have done the marriage thing and I doubt I will do it again. It doesn't mean that I wouldn't be committed to someone again...I just don't need the piece of paper that supposedly makes it legal.
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#16 | 1429 days ago

had 13 years of marriage . Was it boring , depends who you ask ?
the divorce sucked , most do.
what is this marriage you talk about  
#17 | 1429 days ago
cubsgirl2 (+)

(Edited by cubsgirl2)
Cali_Kat wrote:
I should elaborate. I have done the marriage thing and I doubt I will do it again. It doesn't mean that I wouldn't be committed to someone again...I just don't need the piece of paper that supposedly makes it legal.
 But theres something about the paper, and the vows you make in front of your family and friends and God. You vow to no matter what be with that person. To build a life together, I don't know to me theres something about that as well. 
i was married at the cubs game  
#18 | 1429 days ago

cubsgirl2 wrote:
 But theres something about the paper, and the vows you make in front of your family and friends and God. You vow to no matter what be with that person. To build a life together, I don't know to me theres something about that as well. 
The only person that vow matters to is the person I am with. I can do that without a marriage certificate. My family and friends would already know how I felt about that person and would see that we are happy. To me that certificate is just a piece of paper that the gov't requires. My heart doesn't require that!
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#19 | 1429 days ago
cubsgirl2 (+)

Cali_Kat wrote:
The only person that vow matters to is the person I am with. I can do that without a marriage certificate. My family and friends would already know how I felt about that person and would see that we are happy. To me that certificate is just a piece of paper that the gov't requires. My heart doesn't require that!
 I get that. 
i was married at the cubs game  
#20 | 1429 days ago
ChristiSunshine (+)

I want to get married only once if I get married at all.  And I don't think any length of time is too long to be married.
i was married at the cubs game  
#21 | 1429 days ago
huskerfan_ia (+)

Marriage to that special person who you love unconditionally and more than yourself is ideal.  40 years isn't long enough in this case.

Unfortunately we tend to marry people because they 'do it' for us, and that doesn't last... 
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#22 | 1429 days ago
18packabs (+)

huskerfan_ia wrote:
Marriage to that special person who you love unconditionally and more than yourself is ideal.  40 years isn't long enough in this case.

Unfortunately we tend to marry people because they 'do it' for us, and that doesn't last... 
I thought we married cause they "did it" to us?  and that can last all night long.....
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#23 | 1429 days ago

there is never a too long for marriage!!!  it's suppose to be for life, that's what you say "as long as we both shall live" so that's what it should be.  my grama got married when she was 16 and she never got divorced.  as for me, i'm too young to have married before, but a psychic told me when i marry it will be for life. 

#24 | 1429 days ago

18packabs wrote:
40 years too long? What are you NUTS, you are my IDOL Man.

I would give almost anything to find that ONE...

Getting Divorced is like getting the worst ASS WHOOPING ever, then the person doing the BEATING stands over you, unzips their pants and pees all over you.
believe me i am not worthy of being anyone idol, but thankyou for saying it,and for you finding the right one open your heart to gods love and he will put the right one there,god bless you and all my fellow iquers
#25 | 1429 days ago
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Im not the marrying type i guess , but i also think its nice to see a couple who have been married for that long still enjoying and loving each other. It may be something i never get around to but like the saying goes i guess " when its right , its right " and for that there is no time limit.
what is this marriage you talk about  
#26 | 1428 days ago

I was married 44 yrs.   No time is too long.  Marriage should be for life.  I will not do it again.
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#27 | 1428 days ago

it is subjective...it works well for some and not oters..my parents have been married almost 60 years....they were 16 and 19.....marraige didnt wrk too well for me, but i take the responcibility...i made choics that were not thought out......it is what it is....glad it works for many...personally  would live with someone before i committed..:)
#28 | 1428 days ago

No amount of time is too long. If you find your true love and he or she is the one you want to be with and both of you are happy, there is no too long.
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#29 | 1428 days ago

I agree with Glenda, it is the hardest job in the world.  Just think about it, you have to constantly work being together while so many things in our society tries to pull you apart.  Then when you do vow to be together forever, you are mixing in two people who have different backgrounds and trying to make one!  It’s a task that can pull at your every fiber, but it is rewarding in the end.  If marriage was easy then everyone would get married.   The truth is, it is hard and painful, but it makes it that much better when you lay in your bed with your love at night knowing this person to whom you vowed will be with you through everything.

40 years can go as fast as a blink of an eye and it’s still not long enough.  Love is worth all the money in the world.  Ok, I could go on forever about this, but I’m going to stop now.

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#30 | 1428 days ago

I don't plan on living long enough to be married to any one for 40 years,
I want to die and leave a nice looking corpse
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#31 | 1428 days ago

40 years is NOT too long...102 years IS too long (sorry, Cubs fans).  Seriously, my parents have been married 51 years and going strong...I hit 22 a few months back and it IS hard work.  It's like a plant that has to be nurtured.  If it is not, it will die.
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#32 | 1428 days ago

I will be married 40 years next month. To have had that one special person to share our experiences with for all that time is not even something that can be expressed to someone who has not  accepted the idea to be committed to one person for the rest of your life. This doesn't mean we haven't had bad experiences, but even the bad things we survived because we realize the  how important our partner is to each of us. 40 years is a long time, but it would have been a lot longer without my wife. 
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#33 | 1428 days ago

 It's only long if you are unhappy - like working for the wrong company day in, day out. If you love her (or your job) - who knows where that 40 years went...getting married would be like yesterday.

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#34 | 1428 days ago

(Edited by mojorisin188)
I thought when you got married that it would be to THE ONE. But I found out after my marriage/divorce that it was a big mistake.  I married too young to an A$$hole/cheater.  I'm not down on marriage.  Will I ever re-marry, who knows.  But finding someone you care alot about, you have some things (not everything) in common,  theres chemistry and you want to be with is something in itself and no one says you have to get married.  Unless you want kids..... which I dont.
#35 | 1428 days ago

(Edited by SusanVette)
If you're with the right person, there is never enough time to give of yourself to make them happy each and every day. If you're with the wrong person, it can feel like eternity until you get the nerve to divorce them. I was married too young, in college, and we just grew apart. He's not a bad person. We lived, we learned. No kids, but we still talk and are friends. Life is too short to make enemies. Would I marry again? I would with THE right person. I believe my soulmate is out there. 

And CONGRATULATIONS to you both.
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#36 | 1427 days ago

 I am married since  last  32 years... My wife is a right person for me.... We care for each other  and we have  good understanding
between each other...I think   i  am   with  a  right  person...  We  enjoy  life....yes....Even  after  50  years  of  marriage ,  It will not  be 
too long...We  have  in  common   is  GOOD  UNDERSTANDING.....
#37 | 1406 days ago

Marriage is hard nothing easy about it, even if it is to your soul mate, love of your life. I respect those who work at keeping a marriage together rather then always thinking there is something better.
Life is not always fun, easy and a fairytale but so many children hear fairy tales and don't hear about the hard times. They are kept in bubbles there fore when they venture out and find someone they think fun and games.
Anything worth having is worth working for, in the end the memories and rewards are much greater then the stomach aches and bad feelings you get from splitting up. Cudo's to those who are mature enough to want the very best.

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