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A little hot under the collar
Last night a friend of my wife came over 20 some years younger than us .Told us that her daughter is mad at her and now wants to go live with her dad,and why you ask ,she wants to go on this trip with her friends that cost 1500.00 dollars to go on and expects the mom to come up with the money,o I told her to send the girl to her father,now befor you all get crazy I was raised up to work for the things I want my parents bought the cloths and the food and gave me a place to live my dates and trips and the such I had to earn,I brought my kids the same way,so I need some advice is it now the parents responsability to furnish every little wimper their kids get and never make them earn anything ,or is it still like when I was growing up and teach them resonsability and appreciate what they have,sorry about being so long winded
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6%a. you ain't dear abby,captain
12%b. did they have horse and buggies when you were a kid capt
0%c. yes take care of them
76%d. no make them earn it
6%e. other

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#7 | 792 days ago

The more you give to kids without them earning it, Teaches them to not Respect anything
did they have horse and buggies when you were a kid capt  
  
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#1 | 792 days ago

We want our kids to have what we never could or never experienced, so many do give in...Its not right.  Make them learn to earn. 

No...Make that money and then you can go - with my permission!!

AND if she ran from her mother cuz Moms said no and then asked me...I'd be tempted to beat her azz cuz that is disrespectful to the mom. 
no make them earn it  
#2 | 792 days ago

Thats how these little sh*ts are these days.....our kids earn anything they get and their friends tell them we are mean and that we are supposed to provide for them. I am proud of my youngest daughter, she told one of her friends that she appreciates things more and take better care of them when she earns them and has to pay for them. Anytime they want something and try to say we have the money, I tell them "thats right we have money, y'all are broke and broke people dont get what they want."  

Some where along the line they have been taught that they have a voice or a say so in the running of the family or family matters that does not involve them. Kids in general seem to think you must respect them before they will respect you....fu** that, maybe thats not cool or hip, but thats the problem with these little sh*ts now days, fu**ing parents wanting to be cool instead of being parents.

I think my baby girl has caught on that you do things because you want to and sometimes you get rewarded more than you would expect and sometimes you only get a thank you. The last three weeks my mother-in-law was in the ICU at the hospital after suffering an anyurism and we were up there just about every day leaving her to watch the boys. MIL went home last Thursday and so Saturday we took baby girl out shopping for having to put up with the boys (they can be a handful).

Sorry I'm all over th place on this, but bottokm line is tough sh*t, she doesn't get to go on a trip, end of discussion.
#3 | 792 days ago
Nick__ (+)

(Edited by Nick__)
Listen, I don't care if I'm rolling in $$$ or not, I was raised to earn what I received and that's what I am doing with my son.

Sure, there are times that I will spoil him, what parent doesn't do that once in a while?

But for a child to give a parent consequences if they don't get their way???   HA!!

Not sure how old this girl is, but, if I said no and she laid that on me, I would tell her NO to moving in with the other parent as well!

If you say yes, the child wins, one way or the other!  no
no make them earn it  
#4 | 792 days ago

They will respect it and appreciate whatever it is more, if they have to earn it.
no make them earn it  
#5 | 792 days ago

DeeRigga wrote:
We want our kids to have what we never could or never experienced, so many do give in...Its not right.  Make them learn to earn. 

No...Make that money and then you can go - with my permission!!

AND if she ran from her mother cuz Moms said no and then asked me...I'd be tempted to beat her azz cuz that is disrespectful to the mom. 
When one of my kids comes asking me if they can do something, or go somewhere, the first thing I say is "Do I look like your mother?"   Most of the time, I usually have no problems with what they want to do, but since my wife grew up in a stricter home environment, I usually defer to her to ease her mind.   She does let them do things, but with certain time restrictions (curfew) 

I am not shucking any responsibility in this area, I make it a habit to make sure it is ok with my wife before letting them go anywhere.  I don't want to find out later that they had already gotten a "No" from her and are trying to go around her by asking me.

I may be a Fool, but I'm not stupid.  ( <-- at least from my perspective.)
#6 | 792 days ago

I can tell you from a middle school teacher's perspective: Too many people are their kids' friends instead of their parents.

So, that being said, who do they blame when their kids grow up with no responsibility and no accountablity for their actions?

If your answer is "their school teachers", you would be in the majority. And how many of those people would also vote against the oppotunity to pay the teachers more for all that they are "expected" to do?
you ain't dear abby,captain  
#7 | 792 days ago

The more you give to kids without them earning it, Teaches them to not Respect anything
did they have horse and buggies when you were a kid capt  
#8 | 792 days ago
Nick__ (+)

Billy_D wrote:
I can tell you from a middle school teacher's perspective: Too many people are their kids' friends instead of their parents.

So, that being said, who do they blame when their kids grow up with no responsibility and no accountablity for their actions?

If your answer is "their school teachers", you would be in the majority. And how many of those people would also vote against the oppotunity to pay the teachers more for all that they are "expected" to do?
Amen!  And the sad thing is their parents are the people of our generation!  How can we be raised one way and most of "us" do a complete 180 with our kids?!?!

i'll tell you what one of the problems is, parents these days are too busy with work or other things that they give in, just to move on to the next ordeal..........sad, really!
no make them earn it  
#9 | 791 days ago

(Edited by kmj22)
I learned at a young age to work for what i want.  Thank you mom and dad!! 
I work two jobs and have everything I want

and definitely will expect the same from my kids someday smiley
no make them earn it  
#10 | 791 days ago

kids now days thank life is handed to them, they expect a job to walk up to the door and say here i am lets work, the value of anything you get is from the work you do to get it.
no make them earn it  
#11 | 791 days ago

I love this. When any of my kids tell me " I have to" do something, buy this game, go here, whatever it is. I tell them, according to the law, I am required to feed, clothe, and shelter you. That's it! You want something, earn it!  Special occasions, like birthdays, and Christmas are exempt, sometimes. I have been known to give a bag of coal or two. Things will not be handed to them down the road, examples are set at home.
#12 | 791 days ago

wow- - - I dont think my ex ever had this problem with sons- coming to live with me would be like a jail sentencing- they no I didnt play that  sh*t, I would make them earn it and then again, where the hell they going that cost $1500- didnt  they see that movie with Liam Nelson? Reminds of a stunt Jaden did one year - ask for  $200 to buy some damn sneakers by Charles Barkley- I told him " what the eff Barkley ever did for you?
no make them earn it  
#13 | 791 days ago
unopescatore (+)

It's the parents fault in most cases, ya can't blame the kids.  like everyone said....they wanna be friends not parents.  Hippie parents
#14 | 790 days ago

DallasFan55 wrote:
They will respect it and appreciate whatever it is more, if they have to earn it.
that's right, there is more respect when they have to earn it, they may not appreciate that until later in life, but it is better for them, believe me, I am talking from experience.
no make them earn it  
#15 | 790 days ago

this little B'yotch needs to dump this misguided sense of entitlement she has.  live in the now girlie. unless your a politician there is no free lunch. 
no make them earn it  

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