Well I got my answer.  The friend on facebook just unfriended me.  Ha! Ha!  What a shocker. 

It was only a few years (maybe 2?) between stints. Wow 1999 to 2011 seems long. I probably would have moved on, but you never know. I've never been in that position. That's pretty interesting to me.

The older I've become the easier it has been to stay friends with their friends and even them. For the most part it was never really their fault for the break ups in the first place. Plus i'm fairly easy to get along with and not really the jealous type.

"Girls night out? Have fun. wear your blue dress, you'll get more free drinks. here's some money for a cab on the way home. If y'all come back hammered at 4 a.m., hook me up with a grilled cheese too if you're all going to pile in bed, wake me up and watch your crappy show." (<--- That's how i get hooked on those gawdawful programs. lol)

Met my husband when we were 11 yrs old, Married when we were 16 in 1971...Then in 2000 I decided to be independent  and divorced him..Lived by myself for 5 years..then decided to come back and now live with my X husband since 2006..End of story..Neither of us are going anywhere and we both kept the same friends we always had. ..I suggest you try and move on...She has made her choice for but a second time and it's her loss...The "so called" friends your losing now were never your real friends in the first place. You don't need her or them...Screw Em!... I hope you find someone that makes you 20 times happier...Trust me..Everything in life happens for a reason..

wow,,,29 years and then bolt, I dont feel so bad now bolting after 18 and yes there are days I do regret,,, would/will i go back,,one never knows!!

there is a good reason an ex is an ex. for me, it's the fact she can call her vagina AMTRAK because most of the men in south Florida rode that train while she was married to me.

I remained friends with my ex after we separated, (even tho he was pretty much a deadbeat), for my son's sake.  Then he met his g/f and she put a stop to any of us having any contact with him.  My son hasn't seen his dad in 7 years, dad's choice, so now I wouldn't stop to speak to him if I saw him on the sidewalk.  He can't suddenly grow a pair and realize HE cut ties.  His g/f contacted my son a year ago and told him he needed to grow up and contact his father.  My son said "My sperm donor made his choice.  He chose you over me.  Now he'll have to live with it.  My life is just fine without him.  Have a nice day"

Nope, won't ever have anything to do with that piece of crap again, but dayum I'm proud of my son!!

Oh, and yes, I am still friends with almost all of his family, who no longer have contact with him either.

Debi said dayum...I am SO PROUD of her!!!

Well I got my answer.  The friend on facebook just unfriended me.  Ha! Ha!  What a shocker. 

I remained friends with my ex after we separated, (even tho he was pretty much a deadbeat), for my son's sake.  Then he met his g/f and she put a stop to any of us having any contact with him.  My son hasn't seen his dad in 7 years, dad's choice, so now I wouldn't stop to speak to him if I saw him on the sidewalk.  He can't suddenly grow a pair and realize HE cut ties.  His g/f contacted my son a year ago and told him he needed to grow up and contact his father.  My son said "My sperm donor made his choice.  He chose you over me.  Now he'll have to live with it.  My life is just fine without him.  Have a nice day"

Nope, won't ever have anything to do with that piece of crap again, but dayum I'm proud of my son!!

Oh, and yes, I am still friends with almost all of his family, who no longer have contact with him either.

My ex and I split up several times during our relationship and got back together both before and after we were married (or I should say, he left me several times and came back...the last breakup was the divorce, in which I made the decision to leave). But, we got together when we were 15, married at 18, so we were very young. We have no contact - it got ugly toward the end. No hard feelings anymore, I just think we've both moved on from something that never really had a great foundation to begin with. We never had kids together, so there are no ties, and the good memories faded long before the marriage ended.

My husband now and I also broke up a couple of times before we got married - I think sometimes that just happens when people are figuring out where they stand in a fairly new relationship and as they take different steps moving forward. I don't necessarily believe the phrase "they're an ex for a reason" applies in all cases. Sometimes people just need space and time to sort things out. However, there are cases where it's best just to sever ties and move on.

As for friends - I guess it just depends on the person. I have a lot of friends I've kept from when my ex and I were together, some of whom I met through him (work, etc.). My friendship with any of them has nothing to do with him at all - it's how well we click, how deeply rooted our friendship became before my ex and I got divorced, etc. that has resulted in continued friendship with them. Naturally there are going to be some that feel like they have to choose one side or another to keep the peace when it comes to gatherings etc. No biggie.

Funny thing is although I doubt that my friend has ever slept with my ex, he falls into her likes very much.  He's married although he's not as old as she tends to like.  I guess where I feel so bad is that all the friends, both married and single people who told me to leave her are the people now who won't return calls from me.  Her brother and her Dad still talk to me all the time, as does both of her son's.  Even this pair of lesbians who couldn't stand me for the longest time, still text me and tell me how she's doing.